I have often said to my clients that “self love is the final frontier.” While working on relationships with loved ones, with family, may seem difficult, we generally acknowledge its importance to our happiness and well-being. Processing our childhood experiences, learning to have a bigger perspective and to forgive what didn’t work for us, that’s all pretty standard stuff now. But what about your relationship with yourself? So often we look to others for love–we want someone else so much because we don’t feel the love inside. Yet someone else can’t really provide that–that’s an illusion, though one very well propagated by our culture.
Last fall I took a Visionary Oracle course with Jennifer Posada, and the very first assignment we were given was to cultivate self love. In her words–which I LOVE–”you are your most intimate connection with the divine.” I love that because it adds another dimension to what I’ve often said: You are an individual expression of the All That Is, and as such you are divine. It’s so true, you are most intimate with yourself, though we all know how much we can get distracted and conditioned away from this fact. So loving oneself expresses ones love for the divine. Beautiful.
And at the Cosmic Cowgirls Conference I was at recently Susan Kennedy, alsoknown as SARK, talked about being wildly, passionately in love with herself! And that she says this to others whenever possible, and encourages them to say and feel the same. What a blessing.
I’ve been treating myself differently. I go back to bed after I get my daughter off to school if I’m still tired. I go outside and stare at the trees and the squirrels. I write for as long as I want in my journal. I talk with guides and nonphysical teachers. I make really delicious, nutritious and satisfying food. I write about all that I am grateful for. I spend lots of time with my daughter and her friends. I have “art night” once a week with my husband. I dance more, do yoga more. I’m beginning to feel really good, almost all the time.
Yes, things are falling through the cracks. I’m not as productive as I was. I feel a bit spacey at times. Life is feeling quite different. It’s like Abraham says: “Life is meant to feel good. Find your way to good feeling feelings, and go downstream. You don’t even need any oars.” I think I’m learning how to float.
What can you do to be Self Loving? Make a list of things that make you feel good: Go for a walk in nature, read a wonderful book, buy yourself some flowers, play music or an instrument, spend time with friends with whom you feel a positive resonance, make a list of your positive attributes. . . What helps you connect with yourself, supports you to appreciate who you truly are?
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